Loss and grief go through many stages. A memorial service or ash spreading some weeks, months or years after the loss of a loved one can be a powerful and healing way to celebrate the love shared and memories you will always hold.
At a memorial you will likely be in a different emotional place from the funeral.
So here are some helpful considerations for memorials or ash spreading services;
- Is there a place and/or date of significance to hold this memorial ceremony?
- Is there someone who can help create the ceremony and hold the space so you can feel your feelings on the day?
- A funeral celebrant or minister could help you through this time preparing, on the day, and possibly after.
- What ‘journey’ have you been on since the passing of your loved one – how are you different now in relation to your loss?
- If an ash spreading – who will spread ashes?
- Will others participate?
- If so how?
- Are there any religious/spiritual beliefs of your loved one who died or those attending that you would like to consider?
- This will determine the reference to god/spirituality/prayers etc.
- Is there a memorial token or order of service to be given out?
- If so how many people will be in attendance, so how many will you need?
- Who will be present?
- Is there anyone who will be missing but needs to be mentioned?
- Would you like to open the space for anyone who may have something to say (like an informal eulogy)?
- Will there be a gathering after?
- If so where etc?
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